What to expect from counselling

We all experience varying degrees of discontent, resulting in emotional and psychological instability. Seeking counselling is generally initiated as a need from deep within ourselves. A need that calls out, to understand and explore why we feel so distressed and dislocated in our lives. Remaining confused with meaning and purpose in our lives or just becoming tired with the relentless burden that arises out of this confusion often brings a person to seek counselling.

Counselling is a personal matter, which requires the development of a personal relationship. People often seek counselling with hope, that is often underpinned by a deep sense of shame and/or guilt that is evoked in the process of therapy. In this regard I am very aware of the importance of the qualities of honesty, sincerity, confidentiality and an openness to whatever you bring to our sessions.

The initial session is where you begin to describe the difficulties or issues that you want to address. It is also an opportunity for you to make any inquiries you may have about the counselling process, your expectations and any concerns you may have about the process.

We will explore what it feels like to talk to someone about matters that are personal, intimate and experiences that you may have never shared with anyone else. We will explore whether you feel comfortable with the relationship between us and if you decide to continue, we will come to an initial agreement about the frequency of sessions, and sign a contract that remains open to re-negotiations at all times. You can expect to experience real change, which can even feel upsetting, especially when you are working at a deep emotional level. Re-appraising and reconnecting with the difficult emotions and experiences can evoke a great deal of personal distress, but without which, real and lasting change will remain out of reach.